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Frequently Asked Questions
Who pays for the dates?
I plan the dates, but paying for the date is up to you and your match. We'll discuss your preferences for date planning during your video screening; if the cost of the date is prohibitive, let me know and I'll plan accordingly.
Who can see my profile?
Your Karmen Connects profile is confidential. With your consent, I'll share your profile with other matchmakers who have potential matches for you. Profiles are never shared outside of the matchmaking network. Additionally, you and your match will not have access to see one another's full profiles. Instead, you'll see a condensed bio and a picture when we discuss the match together on a video call.
Is this blind dating?
No. You and your match will have an opportunity to see a picture of one another during your video screening.
No. You and your match will have an opportunity to see a picture of one another during your video screening.
Do I have to meet every match I'm offered?
No. You'll have the opportunity to discuss your potential match with me on a video call. Either you or I may determine that the match isn't compatible during that time. If that's the case, you won't be introduced to the match and we'll hone in on how to more accurately match for you in the future.
No. You and your match will have an opportunity to see a picture of one another during your video screening.
What if I'm not 'out' yet?
That's okay. You don't have to be fully out, or even partially out to date. Everyone’s situation is different: family, work, community—there are many reasons someone might be in your shoes. As a client, you can let me know how you want to handle showing pictures and sharing information with your match. Certain elements can be amended for privacy if need be. Members can share this information in their profile if applicable.
What makes Karmen Connects LGBTQIA+ inclusive?
I'm a member of the community and, over the past five years, I’ve interviewed thousands of LGBTQIA+ individuals about their lives, dating histories, core values, preferences, and dealbreakers. I’ve learned that culturally competent matchmaking for LGBTQIA+ individuals requires a strong understanding of the community’s language and history. I’ve even developed supplemental training materials, workshops, and speaking engagements on LGBTQ+ inclusive matchmaking. I hold myself accountable to the community and am always striving for growth.
How do you find my matches?
I find matches via multiple sources: personal connections, collaboration with other boutique matchmakers, and recruiting (both online or in-person).
Do you serve clients outside of NYC?
Yes. Karmen Connects is a nationwide service.
How do you vet matches?
Matches are vetted in three steps.
Step 1: Profile Review
Step 2: Video Screening
Step 3: Background Checks
Do you offer support for reporting harassment or inappropriate behavior?
Yes. The safety of our members is a top priority. In addition to our strict Community Safety Policy, I want to hear from you if anything makes you feel uncomfortable. I’m on-call during dates and available by phone for feedback conversations afterward. Members who behave inappropriately will be removed from the service.
What if I'm not a member of the LGBTQIA+ community but I'm looking for love?
Not a problem. You are welcome in the Singles Pool! I work closely with other matchmaking companies to help their clients find love. If you're an ally to the community, I'm your ally in dating.
Step 1: Make a profile.
Step 2: If a colleague has a client that matches your criteria, they'll connect with you via Phone or Zoom to discuss your potential match. Together, you'll discuss qualities like lifestyle, interests, hobbies, and values to assess compatibility.
Step 3: A. You move into date planning, or
B. We discuss why you’re not a match and use the feedback to guide future matches.
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